Life As It Is

“Life sucks”. It’s something that I have heard way too often and also something even I confess to have exclaimed on more than one occasion. But even if I sit to ponder about it ( Like I’m doing now), I can’t help but ask myself this question – ‘Does life suck or the choices that we make in life?’ Rather than a blame game, it’s all about perception. Life, for one, never forces us to make a choice. It’s all OUR doing. It can sure guide us, tempt us, mislead us but ultimately it’s our final call. Even in the simple matter of life and death. It does whatever it has to, supposed to….destined to, in a way? But what we make and take away from it, is completely on us. Life just follows it’s rule. Something it was always meant to do, but we are always given a choice. I’m not saying we can always change destiny, but we can control and steer our decisions in a way that makes us more accountable for our actions. Blaming everything on life literally takes away our ‘choice’ and ‘role’ of being a part of such a course of action.  We always get to make a choice, but we tend to go with the ‘flow’ and that flow is determined by the route life takes. Again, it’s not just about blaming ourselves either. No. Too many factors might be involved in the choices we make, but how we will handle the consequences of the same, mainly our outlook is what truly makes a difference. It’s OUR perspective. We always have control over it. An extreme example – even after being dumped on or cheated by a person, it comes down to how we react. Instead of blaming life, or the person, we can take accountability on ourselves for what transpired and see it in a different light. Crying or scolding ourselves doesn’t make one weak.  It shows maturity of owning choices. And no matter what happened later on, in those moments of the past ( even when we were making the stupidest mistakes), we were happy. That happiness at that point was probably worth the heartbreak now. Think about it. When life made us ‘happy’, did we ever say ‘Thank you life, you’re the best’? No, we are more into praising our ‘choice’ that ultimately made us happy, BUT when things go downhill, why do we so easily point to ‘life’ and let it take all the blame? That, is true irony.